Wednesday, October 2, 2013

Home Away From Home

I go on a lot of dates; first dates, second dates, blind dates, online dates, but this Thursday could be one of the most important.  I’ve never met him before, but I’m hoping by the end he’ll ask me to move in.

I’ve been house-hunting since I got here – deciding between living alone, living with expats or living with locals. (Can’t find any locals advertising rooms for rent [in English, ha!] so that’s now ex-ed out!)  After being in my own place for eight and half years with no one but a pint sized kitty to answer to, it’s kind of a big deal. I never saw myself having roommates again, but I never saw myself leaving Connecticut either.

Since last week, I’ve seen all kinds of places; units in tall, shiny buildings with doormen, shuttle service, and rooftop infinity pools; house shares in traditional old homes with a high-turnover and backpacker vibe; soulless studios in residential hotels and promising one-bedrooms all modern and clean.  It’s unreal what you can get for your money here.  Luxury living in the trendiest neighborhoods with the fanciest amenities costs just under $1,000 a month. The budget conscious can live well for about $250.  It’s almost like being back in Buffalo, but with heat and a permanent NHL lockout.

The place I found is different. It has character and spaciousness and a 30-something German whose approval I need to win. It’s a gorgeous house share that I desperately want. I visited on Saturday and clicked well with Marta, the other housemate who’s from Poland.  She's now set up a ‘date’ for Flo and me on Thurs when he’s back from a trip. If he likes me, I’m in.

Usually, no problem. I’m pretty comfortable heading out and meeting guys. I put on a some mascara and charm, then fend my way through a few nerves and awkward opening moments. We grab a drink, chat for a while and figure out if there’s any chemistry. The stakes are low – bonus if we decide on a second date.

But this is different. I want him to like me.  I need him to like me.  I want that house, that room, that gorgeous, breezy, elevated view of the Bangkok skyline at night, that 4000 sq. ft. of space, the wrap-around balcony and en suite bathroom, the socially minded European housemates to make experimental Thai curries with and go on trips to Chiang Mai.  I want the guest quarters for all my visiting friends.  At the end of the night, I’m not looking for a peck on the cheek and or a questionable promise to call me again, I’m looking for an invitation from a guy to go live with him.  

Will he like me?  Will I be cool enough? I feel like I’m 14 and waiting for the popular boy to ask me to homecoming. I could have a lot riding on this – new friends, new experiences, the shape of my time in Bangkok.


Tomorrow night I’ll know.

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